Do you have family, friends, or colleagues that talk a lot but do very little listening?
Do you wish people would stop telling you what to do and instead, listen to what you have to say?
Do you want to listen to yourself more but aren’t sure how to do that?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you’re in the right place and you are not alone.
Listening is the one of the most basic needs of human beings and yet many of us don’t receive it…enough.
Listening is not just a need, it is the root of survival.
Without listening, our ancestors would have ignored the advice to stay away from the sabertooth tiger’s den or to avoid the mountain pass that gets snowed in every winter and they would have perished.
Listening helps us survive…and thrive.
This is why I do what I do.
After 18 years as a career counselor, adviser, and career coach, I realized that the foundation for all of them was good listening. So, I opened a practice where people can speak freely and experience compassionate, empathetic listening. It’s amazing what you can discover when you’re able to speak and be heard.
But before I tell you what listening is, let me explain what it isn’t.
Listening is not therapy.
Having utilized therapy for years, I believe in counseling and its ability to improve lives. Attentive listening is crucial to good therapy, and your therapist uses it, along with other techniques, to help you cope and heal from conditions such as depression and anxiety. But, as your listener, this is not what I do.
Listening is not coaching.
I graduated from Coach U’s Advanced Coaching Program with more than 200 hours of training in 2001 when no one even knew what “coaching” was. I’ve also worked with coaches that helped me achieve my goals. Good listening is a core part of coaching. But, as your listener, this is not what I do.
So, if listening isn’t therapy and it’s not coaching, then what is it?
Listening is staying in the present moment.
Listening is hearing in order to understand.
Listening is realizing what someone wants to tell you.
When I listen to you and reflect back what I hear you saying, something will happen that you may find surprising, disconcerting, or even elating.
You will stay in the present moment.
You will hear and understand what you’ve just said.
You will realize what your inner self wants to tell you.
By being listened to, you will learn to listen to yourself.
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